Rediscover intimacy without shame

A safe, compassionate space to explore your sexuality, deepen connection, and heal, individually or with your partner.

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Expand Confidence

Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of every intimate connection. Together, we'll uncover what holds you back, body image, past experiences, or unspoken fears, and build a confident, embodied sense of self.

  • Overcome shyness and performance anxiety
  • Learn to self-define and express your desires
  • Address erectile dysfunction
  • Learn ejaculation control
  • Tap into your inner wisdom to speak your truth

Reignite Passion

Desire ebbs and flows, that's human. But when disconnection lingers, it can feel like loss. Couples therapy creates space to rebuild communication, rediscover each other, and find your way back to genuine intimacy.

  • Uncover relationship gridlocks and negative patterns
  • Learn to communicate desires without defensiveness
  • Recover from an affair and rebuild trust
  • Enhance your erotic menu and explore fantasies together
  • Explore beliefs about monogamy and non-monogamy

Be Orgasmic

Pleasure is your birthright, not a luxury. Many people have never been taught how their bodies work, or carry shame that blocks sensation. Through somatic awareness and evidence-based techniques, we'll help you access deeper pleasure and presence.

  • Discover impediments to orgasm
  • Learn how to pleasure yourself and teach your partner
  • Increase sexual desire and feel erotically vibrant
  • Explore your body's full potential
  • Address physical discomfort or past trauma

Ketamine-Assisted Therapy

For those who feel stuck, when talk therapy alone isn't enough, ketamine-assisted therapy offers a powerful path to breakthroughs. In a carefully held, medically supervised setting, ketamine can help dissolve rigid patterns, access buried emotions, and open new neural pathways for healing.

  • Dissolve rigid emotional patterns
  • Access buried emotions and open new neural pathways
  • Enhance connection and intimacy in your relationship
  • Effective for trauma, treatment-resistant depression, and anxiety
  • Deep-seated blocks around intimacy and connection

Pleasure and quality of life, not dysfunction

I view sexuality from the perspective of pleasure and quality of life, not from a dysfunction-based model. My professional and personal goal is to assist my clients in the process of self-healing and growth, helping them realize their full potential through expressing their sexuality.

Whether you want to increase your confidence, explore fantasies, or discover a new level of intimacy with your partner, I can help. My specialties include treating issues with erectile dysfunction, sexual trauma, loss of desire, and relationships in couples, women, and men.

My work is incredibly rewarding, and I truly love being able to empower my clients.

Meet Diana Urman

I have a PhD in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, as well as a graduate degree (MSW) in Clinical Social Work. I am a California State Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW #26883) and Certified Clinical Sexologist.

  • Advanced training in Attachment Theory, Imago Therapy, Integrative Model of Couples Therapy, Differentiation Model, and the Somatica Method
  • Member of AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists)
  • Certified Sex Educator, San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI)
  • Somatica Professional Couples Training
  • David Schnarch training: Crucible® Mind Mapping Therapy, Treating Extra-Relationship Affairs, 5-day Clinical Practicum, Crucible® Intimacy and Desire
  • Tammy Nelson workshop: Creating Connected Couples
  • The Couples Institute study group with Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson

I'd love to learn more about you and why you might be considering therapy. Schedule a free phone consultation today.

What Clients Are Saying

I have been meeting with Diana for over a year and have gained so much knowledge and confidence from our sessions. From the very beginning I felt comfortable enough to openly discuss whatever is on my mind without judgment. She has the calm and expertise to listen, offer guidance, and suggest resources for a wide range of topics.

Phoebe C.

Diana and I have been meeting for 8 months now and I have gained so much from her knowledge and expertise in love and relationships. In her compassionate yet firm way she has helped me to evaluate my own self-imposed 'stories' and listen to my mind and body without judgement. I find I am a calmer, more compassionate, self respecting person today.

Adrienne L.

Diana is a wonderful support to me and I look forward to our sessions every time. She makes our time together so productive that I always leave feeling like I have accomplished something or made a breakthrough.

Madeleine G.

It is easy to underestimate the progress she helps you achieve and take it for granted because positive changes settle quickly. It sometimes took me a thorough look back at myself six months ago that made me realize how far Diana helped me travel. I highly recommend Diana for anyone who is interested in soul searching deep-dive style.

Natalia L.

Diana is among the very best, in my experience. Her calm, straightforward manner put me at ease instantly. She has always been insightful and helpful. She occasionally also suggests outside readings, which have always proven very useful. I recommend her highly!

Rob S.

Along the way, I have gained problem solving and coping skills, as well as a greater sense of self. Her kind, gentle nature creates an environment which allows you to feel comfortable opening up. I leave each session feeling more prepared and confident to handle whatever lies ahead!

P.

Diana Urman leads a personalized, yet goal-oriented approach to self awareness and discovery. Her compassionate yet direct practices have helped me achieve practical results I have not experienced with other therapeutic methods.

A.

Specializing in sex and relationships, Diana has given me insight into the most priceless endeavor: fostering and maintaining a healthy, giving, and compassionate relationship with my partner.

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Q & A

Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy where you can expect the therapist to evaluate your concerns and assess your relevant history. One of the purposes of sex therapy is to increase your level of confidence in and out of the bedroom. Sex therapy can also help you improve your already great sex life. The most frequent therapeutic outcome is the relief that comes with being able to freely share sexual feelings, thoughts, and fantasies.

Your ability and willingness to be open and honest about your difficulties and concerns are key elements of your success in sex and relationship therapy. One of my roles as a therapist is to provide an open and safe environment where you feel safe to express your fears and difficulties.

Not always, but frequently I will ask you to read certain books and/or complete exercises which may help you with some of the difficulties you are experiencing.

While it is essential to see both partners in couples therapy sessions, very frequently, especially in the beginning of treatment, it may be necessary to see partners separately to alleviate transitional discomfort.

Absolutely. Very frequently my clients start their therapy as a solo experience and choose to include their partners later, once they've achieved certain goals and objectives on their own.

While there is no physical touch between client(s) and therapist, couples may participate in a series of graduated physical touching exercises in the presence of the therapist.

While I currently do not accept insurance, your insurance may reimburse you for all or part of our sessions. I'm happy to provide you with itemized receipts to submit to your insurance company.

I use an integrative approach that combines both sex therapy and relationship therapy. This approach focuses on your personal development and ability to reach your sexual potential by increasing your capacity for intimacy and passion throughout the process of resolving sexual problems. Rather than telling you what to do or how to do it, this methodology uses your spontaneous sexual behavior as a window into yourself and your partner. This emphasis on personal growth differs from other conventional therapies that emphasize communication skills, empathic listening and negotiation. One of the main goals of this therapy is to increase your ability to tolerate anxiety and develop your skills to approach difficult topics with your partner.

Free Phone Consultation

Therapy offers tremendous opportunity for personal growth, and it's important to find a therapist who is a good fit for you.

My free 15-minute initial phone consultation is a chance for you to meet me, ask questions, and learn more about my services. I look forward to speaking with you!

Existing clients: diana@dianaurman.com
In-person and video sessions available.

Get in Touch

Serving San Francisco
and Bay Area

Noe Valley Office
4112 24th Street
San Francisco, CA 94114
(415) 729-5173

Serving Calistoga
and Napa Valley

Calistoga, CA 94515
(415) 729-5173

Serving Santa Barbara, Montecito,
Summerland, and Carpinteria

Santa Barbara Office, CA 93067
(415) 729-5173

diana@dianaurman.com